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Saturday, April 13, 2013

Oh, Don't Mind Her. She's Just a Bored Housewife Now.

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Every once in a while it is pleasant (and there is sarcasm here) to be reminded by some random person online that my opinions and thoughts are not valued quite as much now because I am a "bored housewife".  (There was an expletive included in that title, but in the spirit of keeping this blog space family friendly I have chosen to omit it.)

This got me thinking about how people in my life- those who know me well and those who have never even met me- just might view me when I express my thoughts or opinions on current events and political topics now.  Sometimes it feels like just because I made the decision to be a stay-at-home parent in this leg of the journey of my life, others may feel I have invalidated my college education and my 8 years of teaching.  

Like it never happened?

Yes, I have even been told before that I am "wasting" my college degree by not presently standing in the front of a classroom.  Since when did the weight of my intelligence depend upon how I am or am not using MY college degree to the satisfaction of others?  When did the arguments and points I make start to be seen as something to just occupy my time, a hobby for a meddling housewife?  

When I left the paid workforce?

Even if I never return to teaching, I will always value my college education and my teaching degree.  I will never view it as a waste.
It helped shape who I am today.  
Because of my college degree, I touched lives.  I met wonderful, cherished friends during some of these teaching jobs.
I learned so much about who I am and where I stand.

Yes, my college degree opened doors for me- and not just in my career.  

My education has shaped me into the mother I am now.
Am I saying you must have a college degree to be a good mother?  No, of course not.

But my education, my college degree, the years of experience I have is a part of who I am and that doesn't go away just because I am no longer receiving a paycheck twice a month 

Since when did choosing to make mothering my new career, my new education mean that my previous career, my past education are now null and void?

Are there any other previous working mothers turned stay at home parent who have experienced the same thing?

9 comments :

  1. Ridiculous. Ignoring the fact that any "logic" the other person was using was flawed, many people don't actually even use their degrees in the work force. The degree might have bumped you up in the interview, but I know quite a few people who are working in jobs that have nothing to do with their degrees.
    I'm not gonna even address the stuff about how being "just" a "bored housewife" means your opinion in invalid.

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  2. Comments like that are made out of ignorance and/or jealousy! Doing what is right for you and your family is the most important thing. I have half a dozen friends and family members with college degrees that they have never used. Most people do it for themselves not to prove something to the rest of the world. You are awesome and I admire what you do for your family, and your children will not end up on an episode of COPS :)

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  3. I think your decision was a wise one, especially since you made it for your family. I have a college degree that I never got to use. I was married when I finished it and then promptly got pregnant with my first child. She is 31 years old now! Now I am still a stay at home Mom to a 14 year old and I have two granddaughters, an Etsy shop and a blog and my husband and I run a community theatre. I am using every ounce of my degree in all those areas and happy to be doing it from home. I AM NOT BORED!! Many blessings to you!

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  4. Hear hear! I've gotten comments (from some family members, even!) like this, too. I try to remind myself that the only opinions that matter are mine & my husband's. No one else is living my day to day life. I also agree with you that having a Bachelor's degrees & a Master's degree are requirements for being a "good" mom, but it certainly can't hurt! I use my education degrees everyday as I interact and parent my children!

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  5. Well I am back at work now that my kids are older, but yes, I did leave a high-paying job to stay home when my kids were young and would do it again in a heartbeat. You do not get that time back, and let me tell you, it goes by quickly! Your time with your family is never wasted. By the way, you still ARE teaching others through this blog. In fact, you are probably touching MORE people through this than teaching a class. Just sayin'

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  6. This is so true! I think being a mother must be the hardest job in the world, and I totally respect (and am awestruck) by all the wonderful mothers and "housewives" I see around me. I'm so glad you were honest enough to share your opinion!

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  7. This is a wonderful post, thank you so much for expressing this!!! You're wonderful and your opinion is valued by me!

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  8. OMG Carrie! I totally relate. My dad totally thinks I wasted my degree (read: his money) by staying home. I'm working harder now than I ever did, and I'm actually enjoying it more!!! I've got your back, girl!

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  9. Sheesh, you chose to say home. It's not like you're being lazy and don't want to work. People always find something to bitch about. I've gotten "you're selfish because you don't want to have kids" comment a few times. Really? I'm being selfish? Or are you just jealous because you aren't happy with where your life is right now?

    I think people who make comments like this to people do it because they are trying to make themselves feel better about something that they aren't happy about in their life.

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